New Mom Feels 'Sad' as Husband Refuses to Attend Friend's Wedding with Their Baby
- - New Mom Feels 'Sad' as Husband Refuses to Attend Friend's Wedding with Their Baby
Ashlyn RobinetteDecember 24, 2025 at 8:53 PM
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A woman shared on Reddit that she is upset because her husband declined to attend her friend's upcoming wedding with their 5-month-old baby
"I was really looking forward to making this wedding memory with my husband and baby, and I am really sad that it won't be happening," she wrote
The majority of Reddit users sided with the husband, agreeing with him that caring for an infant at a wedding would be "stressful"
A man's refusal to bring his 5-month-old baby to a friend's wedding has left his wife feeling "sad."
In a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum, the wife, 31, asked users on the platform to weigh in on a debate between her and her husband, 33. She explained that she was hoping her spouse and their infant would join her at her best friend's upcoming wedding, but he "flat out refused to attend the wedding with [their] child."
"I was really looking forward to making this wedding memory with my husband and baby, and I am really sad that it won't be happening," the woman complained, adding, "I have seen [and] heard so many people take their babies to weddings and it makes me sad that I have to attend such events on my own."
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The woman acknowledged that as new parents they're both "going through a lot." Amid taking care of their baby, managing family holiday gatherings and dealing with work, the couple is moving into a new home in January — all of which is "stressful." The husband argues that him attending the wedding with their new baby would just make life harder for him.
"Husband got mad at me for even expecting him to attend the wedding with the baby given everything going on and was upset that he had to say 'no' instead of me suggesting that in the first place," the woman wrote. "He said it would be way easier to take care of the baby alone at home than bring her to the event."
Although the woman thinks her husband made some "fair" points, she noted that the bride made "special arrangements to accommodate [their] baby to be able to attend the wedding," though she didn't specify what that entailed. She also argued her husband should have at least made "an effort to try" to attend a portion of the festivities with their child.
The new mother now feels "like a bad best friend" for having to tell her friend, who she's a bridesmaid for, at the last minute that her husband and baby won't be in attendance.
Most Redditors commented that the woman was in the wrong in this scenario. They argued that she should have spoken to her husband in advance about the wedding instead of expecting him to attend without taking his feelings into consideration.
"He doesn’t want to deal with the extra work and difficulty of taking care of a kid at a party. It’s hard work," the top comment reads, in part. "I think it was fair and justified that you asked. But no means no. Respect it."
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Similarly, someone else said, "I'm with your husband. What a faff, driving there with all the baby stuff, and then he can barely attend the wedding anyway because he's on childcare. He won't get any enjoyment out of it, and the baby will be a stress. Don't you think it would be calmer for the baby if they just stayed home? You don't have a logical reason for them needing to be at the wedding. I suspect you want to show other people your cute baby and husband. That's not really fair on them."
A handful of Redditors pointed out that because the wife is in the bridal party, she will be too busy with wedding duties to help out with childcare. They said this factor also tarnishes her argument about "making this wedding memory" together, considering she'll be away from her family and occupied with other things, such as wedding photos, for most of the celebration. Plus, the baby will "not care" and "won’t remember anything of it."
"YTA (You're the A------) because you’re a bridesmaid. If you were just a guest, and able to take full responsibility for the baby, I’d say NTA (Not the A------). However, a bridesmaid is running around all day," one person wrote. "Your husband doesn’t want to deal with a baby and probably wants a break."
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